SWEET SIXTEEN
It’s not easy being sixteen. It’s a time of conflicting feelings and desires. You want to go out and have fun, have a social life, have a boyfriend or a girlfriend, maybe start a serious relationship. At the same time, important public exams are clouding the horizon and your school work is becoming more and more demanding. At home you want your parents to treat you like an adult yet you still depend on them for food and practical help. It’s also a time when friendships can be unstable as you experiment with your own self – image. You may feel a sense of loss as you drop your old friends or are yourself dropped by them. These feelings of pressure and conflict at school, at home and amongst your peers are not generally helped by those tactless adults who tell you to ‘make the most of the best years of your life because it’s all downhill after you leave school’.
The fact is that 16 – year – olds today are a lot busier than those adults were 30 or 40 years ago. You seek your pleasures more actively and cram a lot more into your lives. You’re impossibly busy ( when you are not in one of your well – earned Sunday morning comas ) trying to get homework done, revising for a science test, playing in a match, rehearsing for a play, looking for your best for your new boyfriend / girlfriend or going to a friend’s party. Many of you are trying to solve your constant money shortage by doing a part – time job. At the same time, your parent are suddenly expecting more help from you at home, with washing – up, babysitting and other domestic duties. You realize that you have to establish priorities, but you find it hard, especially when your parents want you to do it for you.
It is difference between your own and your parents’ priorities that make family life explosive when you’re sixteen. Many parents don’t worry too much about whether their child is popular, having a good social life or going out with friends. Instead, they emphasise the importance of doing well at school and getting good exam results. You know that they’re right, up to a point – that you have to have qualification to get anywhere in this competitive world. But at the same time you realize that however brilliantly you do I your exams, you won’t be happy if you haven’t got any friends. You also know that if you don’t collect new experiences and take social and emotional risks, you will not become an independent and self – reliant adult.